By: Christy Ballestero

I was quiet. In fact, I don’t think I said a single world. “I knew you would come,” she stammered through tear-stained eyes. Just five short words and yet it affirmed and epitomized my life long intention regarding friendship. She was in a desperate time; I didn’t intend to leave her to carry the burden alone. That’s just what friends do. In life we encounter three types of people: Who was there, who wasn’t there, who put you there. We all prefer the first.
A faithful friend is one of the greatest gifts afforded to humankind. Friends are the family we choose for ourselves. When life is bountiful, they share our joy and abundance. In meager times, they endure the adversity. We are secure with a true friend. Here’s a valid test of friendship: Whom do you call when something really good happens? a promotion? financial blessing? unexpected favor? That’s a true friend. You have confidence they will rejoice with you and not be jealous or critical of your blessing. True friendship will never rejoice in the calamity of another.

How friendship evolves is unique in its formation. The implausibility and sheer oddity of what draws one human to another is unique. What drew you to friendship? common interests? convenience? While we may not know the commonality of friendship, here’s what should have no effect: financial worth, status, or skin color. Children are exemplary in this. Just watch them at a playground or public commons. Choosing friends is natural and unassuming with them.

What does the Bible say about friendship?


1. Choose wisely.
Psalms 12:26: The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. (NIV)
Proverbs 13:20: He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.

2. Be kind and friendly. Proverbs 18:24: A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

3. Love them.
I John 4:11: Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.

4. Bear their burdens.
Galatians 6:2: Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

5. Be gracious and forgiving.
Colossians 3:13: Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (NIV)

6. Share their joy and suffering.
Romans 12:15: Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.

7. Pray for them.
Job 42:10: And the LORD turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the LORD gave Job twice as much as he had before.

“Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure.” Jewish Proverb

Bryan and Christy Ballestero

Christy Ballestero and her husband, Bryan, pastor the Temple of Pentecost
in Raleigh, NC, where she serves as the minister of music. They have five beautiful children
and a spoiled Mini Golden Doodle named, Rosie. 



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